How to prepare for mediation: what should you know in advance?

Mediation is not only a peaceful path to agreement, but also a process that requires preparation. While it involves fewer formalities than court, the outcome largely depends on how well both parties are prepared. Proper preparation helps not only clarify expectations but also avoid unnecessary tensions.

What to consider before a mediation meeting?

• Assess what is truly important to you. What do you want to achieve—an agreement on child residence, alimony, property division, or another issue?

• Define your boundaries and compromises. What decisions would be acceptable to you? What could you offer to the other party?

• Think about the children. What decisions would be best for them—not only financially but also emotionally?

• Prepare to cooperate. Mediation works only when both parties are at least minimally willing to search for a joint solution.

What documents should you bring with you?

• Proof of child expenses: invoices, receipts, certificates from educational institutions.

• Documents related to real estate, loans, or other joint obligations.

• If the dispute concerns property division, bring property valuations, purchase contracts, or registry extracts.

While the mediator is not a judge and does not rule on the validity of the parties’ positions, having these documents helps to back up your stance with facts, not emotions.

What to avoid during mediation?

• Do not expect this to be a “court rehearsal.” Mediation is not a place to blame or demand the establishment of the truth—its main goal is to find a solution acceptable to both parties.

• Do not treat the mediator as your lawyer. The mediator is completely neutral—they do not assess who is right, but assist in facilitating communication and reaching a mutual agreement.

• Do not place the responsibility on the mediator. You must make the decision— the mediator simply helps guide the process constructively.

Why is it worth consulting with a lawyer before mediation?
While mediation is often seen as a less formal process than court, legal preparation for it is equally important. Consulting with a lawyer before starting mediation helps you realistically assess your rights and obligations, understand possible risks, prepare for negotiations, and know which decision options would be beneficial to you.

A lawyer can help structure your position, assist with gathering the necessary documents, foresee possible scenarios, and advise on how to handle emotionally difficult negotiations.

Finally, once an agreement is reached, a lawyer reviews its terms and assesses whether they are clear, enforceable, and do not violate your interests. This is especially important if the agreement is to be submitted to the court for approval—because only then will it become an enforceable document.

Our family law team helps prepare for the mediation process: we provide consultations, evaluate documents, advise on mediator selection, and, if needed, participate in mediation meetings and negotiations.